There is a famous saying, If wealth is lost nothing is lost, If health is lost something is lost, If character is lost everything is lost. We can replace character with trust, if trust is lost everything is lost and it cannot be gained forever. People generally won’t trust everyone easily, only if they feel comfortable with someone then they trust them. Breaking their comfortability by misusing the trust which they have in you is definitely equal to a criminal offence. So make sure that you don’t break the trust which others believe that you posses in you.
Trust is important and pivotal to any relationship that we may build; it is this trust in one another that forms the foundation of a really strong relationship and it is up to each and every one of us to help foster and develop this trust so that we can depend on each other. But most of them agree that many are deceitful from time to time for various reasons which often stem from a sense of insecurity. This is not to imply that we all lie regularly and therefore cannot be trusted but rather that we must be upfront and honest with our better halves as this can help engineer an even closer relationship.
And for the record, it is not possible for a person, to be honest, all of the time, just try doing so for a week and you will soon see the difference. The first thing that you need to do is, to be honest with yourself; after all only when you understand your true motivations can you focus on building up the relationship with another person. You need to analyze your actions, find out what you did and the reasons behind it. And as always, this introspection should enable you to understand why you feel compelled to be less than honest with others and by doing so, you would be in a position to do something about it.
Honesty goes a long way in making any relationship strong; no one is asking you to be honest on just about everything but you can start with small ones so that it helps to develop the trust between the two of you. Ever heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words”? Well, it is apt when it comes to building trust; we have this tendency to judge others based on their actions. Given this, it is important that you stick to any promises you have made and carry out the tasks. This can help others to think that you can be relied upon and therefore can be trusted.
Trust is essential in the workplace too. An organization without trust will be full of backstabbing, paranoia and insecurity. If you work for a manager who doesn’t trust his or her people to correctly perform their role, the conditions at work will be gloomy. If the boss is constantly checking up on you, looking over your shoulder and reminding you to do this or that like a front seat driver work will be a drag every day. Colleagues who don’t trust one another will feel the need to be looking over their shoulders than doing any useful work. You’ll also find your eyes sliding to the nearest exit than on the work you should be doing.
You need to be upfront with others regarding your own feelings; for instance, if you do not like something that the other person is doing then you need to tell them to quit it and that it is irritating to you. While it is true that you need to be considerate of others’ feelings, there is no reason that you have to put up with an activity or a dish that you intensely dislike. You can rehearse your words better so that it does not sound harsh but bottom line, make your feelings clear on the subject. In time, the other person will appreciate that you were upfront with them and will trust you implicitly.
Make sure that you’re selecting someone who is trust worthy. We cannot tend to afford everything to someone who doesn’t know the real value and meaning of trust. Once if you believe someone, never have the dilema to share whatever you think. Only if you’re outspoken you can clear everything and not carry the baggage. Likewise breaking trust would not take a minute, but to build the trust it takes years and years. So think wisely before doing something and act accordingly.
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